Momming

I remember when I was finally on my own after being separated, and how much weight I put on being ‘the perfect mom’, especially at that immediate time.  It’s pretty obvious why we hold so much weight on being perfect – we have so much guilt about having to go through a divorce at all, what we think the kids are going through (all bad, right?), and anxiety about how … Read More

So you have made the difficult transition and had the courage to leave your toxic relationship. If this is the case, I’m really proud of you.  When I was finally “free” from under the same roof as my ex, I think the idea of that freedom was very different than the reality.  It was all totally worth it, and I never questioned my decision – but I was in for … Read More

Me:  “So ladies, you’re going to have to get a couple of teeth pulled, remember when the orthodontist told you that?” Girls:  “Yeah.  Is it gonna hurt?  Do they give us that laughy gas stuff?” Me:  “I’m not sure what they use, but when I was young, I had to get 4 TEETH PULLED at the same time!  And I don’t remember a thing.  It won’t be a big deal.” … Read More

I was a pseudo-single mom for about 5 years after separating from my ex-husband. That’s what I call it at least – a pseudo single parenthood, where my custody schedule was split 50/50 and my girls had two loving parents, just at different times. Those years were both happy and terrifying.  I found myself to be a bit of a ‘yeller’ with my kids, which I didn’t seem to be … Read More

Drop the guilt. I decided to create this blog to be a resource or a shoulder for a woman that feels lost, alone, defeated, or unsupported.  I started this because when I was becoming divorced with 2 small children, the only things I could find on ‘divorce support’ or ‘separation guidance’ were checklists on ‘how to know if your marriage is over’ and an endless supply of divorce lawyer ads.  … Read More