i hope you still have hope (2020 shitshow)

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Hi to all my Persisters out there – I’ve been thinking about everyone lately, knowing there are many of you still stuck inside with someone toxic.  Or perhaps you’ve lost your job and are feeling the intense burden and anxiety that this creates.  Maybe you’ve lost a loved one during these confusing times.  My hope is that you remain hopeful and lean into your soul and spirit for guidance. When … Read More

how long will you be a victim?

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When we feel betrayed, hurt, or upset – some of us (#shootshandinair) will cave inward into the feeling of ‘not enough’.  Whether you’ve been slighted by a partner, friend, or something has happened at work – there is a feeling of anger, sadness, betrayal or frustration that then starts moving into a feeling of victim mentality. Why did this happen to me? Why does this always happen? God I am … Read More

preparing to divorce an abusive partner

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First of all, I’m sorry that your relationship is ending.  Unless it was abusive and soul sucking.  In that case, I’m proud of you for taking a huge step in taking care of yourself.  It’s not an easy decision to come to. There are so many reasons it happens – some I can commiserate with, and some I really can’t.  The following will help you in preparing to divorce an abusive … Read More

go on with your brave self

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There are so many things that are different about me, now 6 years post-divorce.  It’s actually pretty incredible when I look back on the person I was, seeing how insecure I was, and how cloudy my judgment and mind were. My husband and I just saw the movie ‘The Post’ last night.  If you haven’t seen it or don’t know what it’s about – it follows The Washington Post during … Read More

parallel parenting – 6 steps to help

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I remember when I was finally on my own after being separated, and how much weight I put on being ‘the perfect mom’, especially at that immediate time.  It’s pretty obvious why we hold so much weight on being perfect – we have so much guilt about having to go through a divorce at all, what we think the kids are going through (all bad, right?), and anxiety about how … Read More

freedom and chaos – single after a toxic relationship

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So you have made the difficult transition and had the courage to leave your toxic relationship. If this is the case, I’m really proud of you.  When I was finally “free” from under the same roof as my ex, I think the idea of that freedom was very different than the reality.  It was all totally worth it, and I never questioned my decision – but I was in for … Read More

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