Encouragement

When we feel betrayed, hurt, or upset – some of us (#shootshandinair) will cave inward into the feeling of ‘not enough’.  Whether you’ve been slighted by a partner, friend, or something has happened at work – there is a feeling of anger, sadness, betrayal or frustration that then starts moving into a feeling of victim mentality. Why did this happen … Read More

First of all, I’m sorry that your relationship is ending.  Unless it was abusive and soul sucking.  In that case, I’m proud of you for taking a huge step in taking care of yourself.  It’s not an easy decision to come to. There are so many reasons it happens – some I can commiserate with, and some I really can’t.  The … Read More

There are so many things that are different about me, now 6 years post-divorce.  It’s actually pretty incredible when I look back on the person I was, seeing how insecure I was, and how cloudy my judgment and mind were. My husband and I just saw the movie ‘The Post’ last night.  If you haven’t seen it or don’t know … Read More

I remember when I was finally on my own after being separated, and how much weight I put on being ‘the perfect mom’, especially at that immediate time.  It’s pretty obvious why we hold so much weight on being perfect – we have so much guilt about having to go through a divorce at all, what we think the kids … Read More

So you have made the difficult transition and had the courage to leave your toxic relationship. If this is the case, I’m really proud of you.  When I was finally “free” from under the same roof as my ex, I think the idea of that freedom was very different than the reality.  It was all totally worth it, and I … Read More

When I read about narcissistic personality disorder, it was mind blowing.  Honestly?  I just thought my ex was unable to argue effectively.  I thought I could fix it. I read all about effective arguing, all about how we should say things like “when you say this, it makes me feel _____”.  I even tried writing letters when I was too … Read More