how to communicate with a narcissist

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If anything will give you heartburn and overall anxiety, it might be when you have to respond or communicate with your ex. Here’s how to communicate with a narcissist. You probably already know this – but it’s best to only respond or communicate when necessary. Take your pride, your need to be understood, your anger – and put it on the shelf for now. Toxic people feed off of attention…positive … Read More

questions to ask a divorce lawyer

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If you are getting ready to separate/divorce, interviewing at least two attorneys is an excellent idea.  Some attorneys are more aggressive than others – some want to stay out of the courtroom.  Let your conscience be your guide, but be ready to ask some good questions to be able to find your best match.  These questions to ask a divorce lawyer will help you choose who will advocate for you. … Read More

preparing to divorce an abusive partner

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First of all, I’m sorry that your relationship is ending.  Unless it was abusive and soul sucking.  In that case, I’m proud of you for taking a huge step in taking care of yourself.  It’s not an easy decision to come to. There are so many reasons it happens – some I can commiserate with, and some I really can’t.  The following will help you in preparing to divorce an abusive … Read More

8 things i wish i knew before separating

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So you either had an ‘aha!’ moment regarding leaving your marriage, or it wasn’t up to you.  Maybe you both knew this was not going to get better.  Whatever your situation, I’m sharing what I wish I knew before separating a long time ago.  FWIW, I left my marriage and it was not an option when that became clear to me. I wish I saw a lawyer before I made … Read More

am i screwing up my kids?

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Drop the guilt. I decided to create this blog to be a resource or a shoulder for a woman that feels lost, alone, defeated, or unsupported.  I started this because when I was becoming divorced with 2 small children, the only things I could find on ‘divorce support’ or ‘separation guidance’ were checklists on ‘how to know if your marriage is over’ and an endless supply of divorce lawyer ads.  … Read More

i know you

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Hey – don’t I know you?   You’re the woman down the street from me…the one that I look up at briefly at and give a quick wave to as I keep walking my dog.  Or you’re the colleague at work that I chat with sometimes in the breakroom – the woman who is both on-trend who has gorgeous family pictures that decorate Facebook and your laptop screen.  You are probably … Read More